An Easy Life Does Not Make A Badass Life And Business Coach

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An Easy Life Does Not Make A Badass Life And Business Coach

A calm sea does not make a skilled sailor.

And, for the record, an easy life does not make a badass life and business coach.

I’m sitting on my patio, looking up at the blue sky over my Kentucky home with tears in my eyes. I’ve just heard that another one of my close friends has had a serious health scare. My heart is broken. No words come to mind but “What the fuck is going on with the universe?”. I am shell-shocked that so many beautiful, loving, and serving women can possibly be so sick. It seems to be an epidemic and a fucking conspiracy against the women of the world who have dedicated their lives to helping others. I have so much emotion wrapped up in this question, this puzzle, this reality, that a book is about to be seeded and written.

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badasscoach1We, who have offered our lives to hold the hands of the wounded, to pick up the fallen, to shine the light on the path ahead, to believe in others when they can’t believe in themselves are enduring some of the most heinous physical and emotional situations you can imagine. And, on top of that, most life coaches don’t or can’t talk about their truth in fear that others won’t understand or will judge their struggles. And, what’s worse, they judge themselves and fade in and out of self-doubt and often don’t have the support they need to get to the next level of life and business. Yes, we are sick. Yes, we have family and relationship problems. Yes, we have money issues. Yes, we have fears and doubts. We are human.

Frankly, I’m tired of not talking about it. I’m tired of seeing all the glam ads for women’s life coaches that elude to the fact that they went through hell to get there or are even still there. The truth is the truth, and revealing it will always be the best way to attract abundance, health, and joy into your life. Mentors, coaches, teachers, it’s time to stand up and be as real as we can.

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So why do we do what we do if it is so hard? The short answer is that we must. It is our purpose, our calling. We could no more deny it than we could deny our need to breathe. At least that’s what I feel. But, it hurts to feel so broken inside sometimes and have to be whole for others on demand. Chronically ill but also chronically serving the world. Is there a correlation between the two? Which came first, the chicken or the egg? A part of me doesn’t really care to know the answer. But there is another side that won’t rest until I understand the why of my own fleshly thorns and those of others like me. Is there another way to think, to live, to be that we are missing? I believe it’s time to explore these questions and answer them in a creative team environment. Perhaps a dynamic anthology will come of this…

XO Kellie Rae

Kellie Rae
Kellie Rae
"I make no excuses for my diverse roles as a Rock Your Feminine Type Coach™ and Branding Expert, best-selling author, and crime thriller novelist. Yes, I do still chuckle a bit at the irony. I kick ass as a business transformer for badass women by day and kill off vulnerable fiction characters at night. What the hell, it makes for some interesting dreams. I believe that everyone should pursue their passions no matter how out there they seem to be. One of those pure heart-fluttering passions for me has always been writing. Since I did, indeed, chase my dream of being a writer, I've published two non-fiction books in the self-development genre and have another on its way, co-authored an international best seller, and have finally pushed my much-too-old-to-be-in-the-nest novel out the door and into the world. My whole world is empowering and I adore showing others how to live life unfiltered, whether I do that through the written word or my coaching work. I love my job!" ~Kellie “Ignite Your Ass” Rae


  1. That is my story Kellie. As an empathic helper and artist, I became ill for holding in and repressing my authentic expressions, not anymore! I often question why do certain things have to or had to happen in life. My questioning is a part of who I am, I did it since I was a young child and have not stopped. Underneath my frustration and fear I can choose to also trust in a higher purpose.

    • Kellie Rae says:

      Lisa, So powerful to know your soul and its direction, even if it reveals some nasty stuff. So happy that you are always looking at the higher purpose! Thanks so much for visiting! xo Kellie Rae

  2. Linda Ursin says:

    I chose to be open and real a long time ago, and I’m glad I did

  3. Joni says:

    Oh Kellie Rae,

    What a comfort to read your words about revealing the messy truth of our lives even as we actively inspire, support and mentor others. Gratefully, I have remained physically healthy but have been through the ringer with emotional upheaval and seismic shifts in my primary relationship and family in the two years since I conceived, birthed and launched my coaching business. While I have been undeterred in my commitment to offer my work to the world it has been completely crazy the amount of chaos, crisis, and emotional mayhem that has occurred in the process. As a sensitive, throughout it all, I can’t not feel it. The emotions move through me deeply and powerfully. In the meantime, I’m teaching on ease, flow and self care. Sometimes it feels nothing short of ridiculous. I would be honored to be a part of your project if my story feels like a good fit.

    Thank you again for naming the painful and messy truth. Such a relief. Joni

    • Kellie Rae says:

      I completely relate to all of the emotional stuff, too. It isn’t just physical illness that hits us so hard. I will put your name on my list and once I have more details about the project from the publisher, I will contact you for a consultation! Thanks so much for your input and support!
      xo Kellie Rae

    • Kellie Rae says:

      Thanks so much for your insights! It’s not only physical illness that trips up in our quest to serve. The mind and emotions can be so tricky. I appreciate your interest so much! xo Kellie Rae

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