Stop Being More Loyal To Your Fear Than To Your Dreams!

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Stop Being More Loyal To Your Fear Than To Your Dreams!

bebadassalready2-3You say, “I want this and I want that.” Yes, that comes in loud and clear, but so does the fact that you are more loyal to the fear that keeps you from acting on it than you are to the actual dream. I’ve done this, too. So before you go off and think I’m judging and being all high and mighty…listen. I’ve been on the side of my dreams, where I couldn’t and wouldn’t move one inch toward them because of my fear.

I get it…

But I also get that living like this is insanity.

Fear is useful. It’s an emotion to tell us that something different and difficult is ahead. Let me make myself clear: dreams don’t just show up without something to activate them. That thing usual is intention first, then action. Fear of failure. Fear of losing someone. Fear of rejection. Fear of poverty. Fear of falling into a fucking black hole…lol. Yes, there are as many things to fear as there are stars in the universe. Bottom line: do you really want that “thing” or do you just want to talk about it? Talk is great if have the action to back it up. But, if not, you are just kidding yourself.

Hey, you know that “thing” that has been knocking at your door forever…yes, it’s tapping at your brain right now and has been since you read the title of this blog? I want you to get real about it this week. Tell your fear that you are breaking up with it because you have a date with your dreams! And…don’t look back. Keep walking. Keep intending. Keep moving toward the “thing”. Your fear won’t chase you down, beg at your feet, give you roses, or swear to you its love. No. It is a narcissist. It only has its purpose and job. Remember, it’s telling you to pay attention. Now, pay attention! And say thank you to the fear for warning you. It has done its job. You must now do yours. No Excuses. No Blaming. No Playing the Victim.

Tell us what your “thing” is if you have the guts to.

Rebel Love,

xo Kellie Rae

Kellie Rae
Kellie Rae
"I make no excuses for my diverse roles as a Rock Your Feminine Type Coach™ and Branding Expert, best-selling author, and crime thriller novelist. Yes, I do still chuckle a bit at the irony. I kick ass as a business transformer for badass women by day and kill off vulnerable fiction characters at night. What the hell, it makes for some interesting dreams. I believe that everyone should pursue their passions no matter how out there they seem to be. One of those pure heart-fluttering passions for me has always been writing. Since I did, indeed, chase my dream of being a writer, I've published two non-fiction books in the self-development genre and have another on its way, co-authored an international best seller, and have finally pushed my much-too-old-to-be-in-the-nest novel out the door and into the world. My whole world is empowering and I adore showing others how to live life unfiltered, whether I do that through the written word or my coaching work. I love my job!" ~Kellie “Ignite Your Ass” Rae


  1. Gypsy says:

    HAHA Thanks for the brick! I so needed it! And my dream? My BHAG (big hairy audacious goal)? Open up my own witchy brick and mortar — complete with the space to hold classes and other awesome things. With the space to have Sister Sessions <3 To create a space called home ….

    • Kellie Rae says:

      Gypsy, that sounds so rebellicious! And you shall do it! I see that you are preparing for this now with the steps you are taking for your online biz. You will look back a year from now and wonder why you were ever afraid to move into this new season.

      xo Kellie Rae

  2. My thing? I have more than one, I’m afraid. But let’s shine the bright light on this one: I want to boldly and audaciously embrace love and passion in relationship.

    Even though I don’t believe I can. (Fear.)

    • Kellie Rae says:

      Sue, you are already a beautiful embracer of bold and audacious love! You do it all the time in your service to others. You are you. You are love-able…period! So, maybe did a little deeper into what you are really afraid of.

      xo Kellie Rae

  3. Kick fear to the curb. Thank fear for the lessons it taught you and send the entire “F” family on their way – permanently!

  4. Powerful and insightful post Kellie! I’m launching a new virtual program within the next 2 weeks and my fear is that I won’t get a good critical mass of folks to make it worthwhile and to have a real community. I find that whenever I launch a new program some fear comes up around it and yet I’m trusting the Universe to send me the folks who are meant to be part of it. I know from experience that if I believe in myself and value of the service I am providing and I focus on “giving” and being of service amazing things happen.

    • Kellie Rae says:

      Yes, Pamela, that’s the key: trusting the universe. The other thing that I do is let go of my expectations and attachment to the outcome. If we are rigid with ourselves and our projects, we can close off the flow that the universe is sending. That said, it’s pretty normal to have fear about new things. You are right where you are supposed to be!

      xo Kellie Rae

  5. Karin says:

    I am getting real about it this week!

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